What she did became truncated statements,
Small portions of my life
Separated and made into little boxes which described it.
One by one I handed you these truncated boxes,
Along with a box of my own tears.
The entire story too harsh for bathroom sitting.
And as I sat on the toilet,
And as the years went by,
I handed you these truncated statements
Coupled and forever married to apologies.
I'm sorry I didn't know.
I'm sorry I couldn't stop it.
If I could have, I would have.
And as these estranged apologies fell from my tongue,
They crept across your bathroom floor,
And up your pristine legs,
And through your skin,
Tanned by those days with her,
And sunk into your heart.
God, your heart.
So great and elaborate,
With these caves of pure forgiveness,
And things of the like I shall never understand.
I blackened it, and charred it, and made it sad
With those truncated statements I didn't understand.
I'm sorry.
And here I go again,
Apologizing for her.
And there you go again,
Apologizing for her.
We did nothing to her.
And you did nothing wrong to me.
You see, it is detrimental to my survival that you understand that.
If only you could understand this.
Your guilt traps me like Odysseus,
In between Sicily and Italy.
I made your heart into that guilty place.
Would that I hadn't said a thing.
Would that I had kept in inside.
Then maybe you wouldn't be so sad.
I'm sorry I made you sad.
If I knew that your guilt would overpower you like this,
I would have used a stapler on my own mouth;
Would that I were Philomela,
I would cut off my hands so that I might not weave you that story.
You always say, "Trash in. Trash out."
And make some comment about my reality television shows.
The reality is, the drama around Kim Zolsiack
or the war between Kelly Killoren Bensimon and Bethenny Frankle
Is not trash compared to what I know.
Trash is being berated at the age of three.
Trash is indoctrinating the Godly ideal of anorexia in a five year old.
Trash is telling a child that his or her father is good for nothing.
Trash is telling a child that his or her mother is not that smart.
Trash is telling your granddaughter that she is a bad mother.
Trash is bringing your children to tears,
And walking away with a smile.
The lies she said,
The stories she created,
The lives she crippled,
That is trash.
Trash is she.
And you surround yourself with trash every single day.
Trash in. Trash out.
Friday, October 15, 2010
Wednesday, October 13, 2010
M&M's in my Oatmeal
I think you would be proud
That is, if you really knew a thing about me,
But perhaps not, for no one ever knows what type of being is dwelling in your heart.
Is it that evil dragon, whose forked tongue left eternal cuts and scrapes all over my body?
Or is it that elderly woman, just seeking love?
Regardless, I think I am probably the only one who doesn't care which one you are.
To me, you are always the former.
But I do think that you would be proud of me;
That is, after all, all I ever wanted from you.
You would be proud to know that I eat M&M's in my oatmeal.
I don't fit into my jeans.
But don't worry, I am working on bulking up so I fill them out.
I am teetering on getting a B in Geology,
But don't worry, it may get worse.
I am still a disgrace, because I am going to be a teacher.
I will never touch your decrepit face with my ugly hands.
That's probably for the best.
You would be proud, because I weigh 120 lbs.
If you don't remember, that's about 30 more than what you instilled in me as "good".
Also, I break my food into tiny pieces to make it look like I ate more when I have finished a meal.
You'd be proud of that too, I imagine.
Understanding your mind is like understanding the Gordian Knot.
I won't unravel you.
I just know that you would be proud,
And proud in the most antonymical way there is.
The tents you made under the bed
And the games of imaginary basketball played in your living room
(God forbid I jump too high and cause one of your perfectly aligned crystals to move off of its perfectly cleaned glass plate.)
They are over.
No more visits.
No more Mexican Train.
You're out of my life.
But that's not true, because you have my life.
You hold my childhood in your hands,
Blackened by the evils of your words.
You slowly pulled the threads out every day
When we would take that ominous walk to your wedding photographs.
They say, or I should say he, he being Dr. Barton, a psychiatrist, says
That you have no control.
But I give you control.
You probably don't know this, but I am sure that you would be proud,
I can't imagine my life before your dragon claws tore into my prepubescent stomach,
Already overrun and fattened by M&M's in my oatmeal.
But don't worry.
I'll be at that altar someday.
And he will love me regardless of that number on a scale you once made seem equal to the presence of God in a church
But you won't see any of that,
Because I wouldn't want you to know that you were wrong.
So here I am,
About seventeen years after your indoctrination,
And I'm not okay.
You would be proud of that:
Proud in the truest sense there is.
That is, if you really knew a thing about me,
But perhaps not, for no one ever knows what type of being is dwelling in your heart.
Is it that evil dragon, whose forked tongue left eternal cuts and scrapes all over my body?
Or is it that elderly woman, just seeking love?
Regardless, I think I am probably the only one who doesn't care which one you are.
To me, you are always the former.
But I do think that you would be proud of me;
That is, after all, all I ever wanted from you.
You would be proud to know that I eat M&M's in my oatmeal.
I don't fit into my jeans.
But don't worry, I am working on bulking up so I fill them out.
I am teetering on getting a B in Geology,
But don't worry, it may get worse.
I am still a disgrace, because I am going to be a teacher.
I will never touch your decrepit face with my ugly hands.
That's probably for the best.
You would be proud, because I weigh 120 lbs.
If you don't remember, that's about 30 more than what you instilled in me as "good".
Also, I break my food into tiny pieces to make it look like I ate more when I have finished a meal.
You'd be proud of that too, I imagine.
Understanding your mind is like understanding the Gordian Knot.
I won't unravel you.
I just know that you would be proud,
And proud in the most antonymical way there is.
The tents you made under the bed
And the games of imaginary basketball played in your living room
(God forbid I jump too high and cause one of your perfectly aligned crystals to move off of its perfectly cleaned glass plate.)
They are over.
No more visits.
No more Mexican Train.
You're out of my life.
But that's not true, because you have my life.
You hold my childhood in your hands,
Blackened by the evils of your words.
You slowly pulled the threads out every day
When we would take that ominous walk to your wedding photographs.
They say, or I should say he, he being Dr. Barton, a psychiatrist, says
That you have no control.
But I give you control.
You probably don't know this, but I am sure that you would be proud,
I can't imagine my life before your dragon claws tore into my prepubescent stomach,
Already overrun and fattened by M&M's in my oatmeal.
But don't worry.
I'll be at that altar someday.
And he will love me regardless of that number on a scale you once made seem equal to the presence of God in a church
But you won't see any of that,
Because I wouldn't want you to know that you were wrong.
So here I am,
About seventeen years after your indoctrination,
And I'm not okay.
You would be proud of that:
Proud in the truest sense there is.
Tuesday, August 3, 2010
[Please describe your symptoms here]
New doctor's appointment: August 11th; panic attack, you are expected.
While the prospect of finding a new doctor was once exciting, now it brings on noting but stress. Having had to endure with an unresolved medical problem for six years, I basically understand how the doctor's appointment will go. Unfortunately, I now fear that leaving out any detail of my symptoms will result in my treatment not working for me. I have this fear, because I feel that my FM was not diagnosed for years because of my inability to consolidate all of my symptoms in a neat and fashionable manner to my doctor's in some concise way. Obviously, the idea of having to write down every symptom of mine is a daunting task --- let's not even mention that I am to do this in one small line on a piece of paper.
When asked, "What parts of your body are afflicted with pain?" I answer, "Everywhere."
When asked , "When do you feel pain?" I answer, "All the time."
Is that good enough? :)
Last night I cried in my mother's arms, because I could not remember what it was like not to feel pain. I was calming down, and was feeling better when she put her hand on my arm, causing more pain just by touching me. I then cried harder. Pain is a part of my life - I accept that. What I am still failing to accept is that I cannot be comforted as I would always like to be.
Strangely enough, my rant, my complaints, whatever this is will end here, because I need to lie down, because (shocker!) my back hurts.
-amh
While the prospect of finding a new doctor was once exciting, now it brings on noting but stress. Having had to endure with an unresolved medical problem for six years, I basically understand how the doctor's appointment will go. Unfortunately, I now fear that leaving out any detail of my symptoms will result in my treatment not working for me. I have this fear, because I feel that my FM was not diagnosed for years because of my inability to consolidate all of my symptoms in a neat and fashionable manner to my doctor's in some concise way. Obviously, the idea of having to write down every symptom of mine is a daunting task --- let's not even mention that I am to do this in one small line on a piece of paper.
When asked, "What parts of your body are afflicted with pain?" I answer, "Everywhere."
When asked , "When do you feel pain?" I answer, "All the time."
Is that good enough? :)
Last night I cried in my mother's arms, because I could not remember what it was like not to feel pain. I was calming down, and was feeling better when she put her hand on my arm, causing more pain just by touching me. I then cried harder. Pain is a part of my life - I accept that. What I am still failing to accept is that I cannot be comforted as I would always like to be.
Strangely enough, my rant, my complaints, whatever this is will end here, because I need to lie down, because (shocker!) my back hurts.
-amh
Monday, July 19, 2010
Summer So Far
This past summer, I say past as if I have conceded that summer is over and the next school year is imminent, originally had the curse of following the most passionate, life-affirming, beautiful summer I ever experienced. Though this past summer had the odds stacked against it, it has proven to be quite comparable to its predecessor.
Newby and I have spent and will continue to spend so much time together, every day affirming the value of our relationship. We went to a wedding together; it must be stated here that going to a wedding while in a serious relationship with your serious partner is a big deal for me. Weddings and the way in which you conduct yourself in the wedding mean a lot to me: explanation of this is for a different time and a different place. Newby, however, went above and beyond in this wedding situation. We had a blast, and I cried and dirtied his handkerchief, good tears mind you.
Also this summer, Christina decided that she would move home: a choice that I feel has already proven to be the right choice. I'm fairly excited about spending some good time with her that does not require a five hour drive.
Also, it means one more person that I get to help form a class schedule for. :)
With the happiness of this summer has come some more serious and disheartening news. About a month and a half ago I was diagnosed with Fibromyalgia. Basically I have chronic pain, frequent anxiety, constant fatigue along with a dozen other symptoms: tightness in my chest, numbness, Fibro fog to name a few. I encourage everyone to go to the National Fibromyalgia Associate website and learn about the horrible aspects of this "invisible disease". Unfortunately, there's no cure for Fibro. I do, however, believe that God has given me this burden (or gift) for a reason.
I have found strength in God's words; "2Consider it pure joy, my brothers, whenever you face trials of many kinds, 3because you know that the testing of your faith develops perseverance. 4Perseverance must finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything." James 1: 2-4
-amh
Newby and I have spent and will continue to spend so much time together, every day affirming the value of our relationship. We went to a wedding together; it must be stated here that going to a wedding while in a serious relationship with your serious partner is a big deal for me. Weddings and the way in which you conduct yourself in the wedding mean a lot to me: explanation of this is for a different time and a different place. Newby, however, went above and beyond in this wedding situation. We had a blast, and I cried and dirtied his handkerchief, good tears mind you.
Also this summer, Christina decided that she would move home: a choice that I feel has already proven to be the right choice. I'm fairly excited about spending some good time with her that does not require a five hour drive.
Also, it means one more person that I get to help form a class schedule for. :)
With the happiness of this summer has come some more serious and disheartening news. About a month and a half ago I was diagnosed with Fibromyalgia. Basically I have chronic pain, frequent anxiety, constant fatigue along with a dozen other symptoms: tightness in my chest, numbness, Fibro fog to name a few. I encourage everyone to go to the National Fibromyalgia Associate website and learn about the horrible aspects of this "invisible disease". Unfortunately, there's no cure for Fibro. I do, however, believe that God has given me this burden (or gift) for a reason.
I have found strength in God's words; "2Consider it pure joy, my brothers, whenever you face trials of many kinds, 3because you know that the testing of your faith develops perseverance. 4Perseverance must finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything." James 1: 2-4
-amh
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